My mother and father are both from large families. Most on my dad's side died in late 60s to late 70s with no signs of any significant dementia issues. Dad doesn't have the ape 4/4 . BUT
on my Mom's side, a few of the older people had some slight issues, but mostly they lived into the 80s with so serious signs of dementia.
My mother may have had some "mini-strokes" as well, but she was totally great until early 70s, and although it is possible that she was declining in late 60s, no one could tell.
The odd thing is that, she lost "patches" of memories, and it wasn't the stereotypical "who is the new neighbor, where are my keys? What was I thinking about doing?" She actually forgot whole patches. EVEN WEIRDER... she wasn't horrifed or scared when she didn't know things that had happened in the past that we all reminded her of and re told her of.
(Example... the time an aunt had an accident, or the time that a cousin went to Japan and became ill, or the family friend who had a daughter die of cancer) . Random, but significant events like this were... POOF... LOST
Could this be from Alzheimer's ... she did test 4/4 and I am also 4/4
Maybe my mother also had issues of forgetting things that were psychologically disturbing. She was the type that didn't like to have stress or worry and wanted everything to be ROSY, so maybe the Alzheimer's "allowed" her brain to more easily forget??
She was mainly having issues in the mid 70s when she was outside of the home, visiting family for example, or at a party. She would also be a bit crabby and shy... which is TOTALLY opposite of her personality. She also would engage in more idle gossip... weird for her.
Yes, she did the typical repeating of herself, misplacing items, and forgetting daily things... but the odd part is that her personality changed and she pulled away from people, YET wasn't depressed EVER . How is that even possible...??? My mother has never been sad about it or cried. I think that is psychologically unhealthy for her. I spoke to her about my 4/4 as well and she wasn't sad for me, so I am wondering if the part of her brain that would be sad or worried about a serious issue, or embarrassed "died off earlier"... because it is odd that she didn't react normally to the news of her own diagnosis or mine. She and I were BEST FRIENDS, yet she pulled away as the past few years have passed by. WHY did this also happen??? Because my father did the worst thing for a person with Alzheimer's ... control and isolation. He told me to stop coming over and picked fights with me and it got NASTY. I would cry and cry and he wouldn't relent. He DID NOT allow me to to be "in the know".
She did not do the brain/cognitive work, or take supplements... SO SAD.
My parents are wealthy too... so money isn't the issue.
When my mom stopped her social life stopped with the Internet, and quit reading and watching tv, my dad was thrilled actually. It was only when she burned food while cooking or served him rotten food from the refrigerator, and stopped paying the bills that he FREAKED. He always wanted 100% control and now he has it.
I know I am rambling... sorry... I am just wondering mainly if her Alzheimer's is worse because of psychological reasons... 55 years of marriage to a controlling husband , being a 190s housewife, or if she had mini-strokes,,, or what?
She did have IBS, liked sweets, and had a sinus issue chronically... but other that being 25 pounds overweight her whole life, she did walk everyday, yoga, eat healthier than most, had hobbies, was fun, positive, read, cooked, sewed, was full of life...
You would be surprised to see that she is suffering from this as she looks SUPER healthy.
I again apologize for rambling, but I have nobody to talk to about this. My siblings are either in denial and secretive (I suspect they too have 4/4, and there are other non-blood related relatives who have similar issues and that scares my siblings as well.
I am not in denial and am actively improving my life.
I try not to be angry with my dad. I have already lost my mom I feel. She isn't sad that she doesn't see me... she doesn't care at all, or lacks the ability to care (we used to laugh and talk on the phone at least 1 hour a day and visited each other all the time and shared all of our secrets up until 4 years ago).
I am still in shock that I "lost" my mother. .. that my dad is okay with this... that my siblings don't seem to care... and I DO NOT want this EVERY happening to me!
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this.
I appreciate the support