Oh I hear you sister.
My frustration with doctors is the result of what I went through with my mother, which is a very long story. Let me just say that in less than a year I took her to 12 doctors. Some were very good and some were terrible. Her last doctor was the worst. I spent three years in Florida (work-related), and moved my mother down there with me. IMHO Florida is a medical hell-hole: the system is broken. I had no choice of doctor for her--I found her doctor through a hospital referral service. He didn't need to have gone to medical school to do what he did: I could have done his job with a cheat-sheet from a pharmaceutical company. (NB: My attitude toward Florida is based on my experience in the panhandle; I don't know whether it's true of the whole state. It was a significant factor in my decision to move back to Virginia.)
Years ago a colleague of mine whose son was in medical school at a very prestigious university (and who is now the chairman of the department of medicine at another) told me that his son described medicine as black magic. He said the human body is a black box--they don't know why things happen the way they do. They're guessing all the time.
I'm an ApoE3/4 65-yr-old woman. I see an ob/gyn every year for the standard tests and that is it. Since learning about Walk-in-Lab I don't need to see a gp to get a blood test. I monitor my blood-pressure with a wrist cuff. Very very thankfully I have no health issues aside from tinnitus and trigger-finger in my hands, which I hope will clear up if/when I ever finish clearing the ivy in my yard
. I take no prescription meds but I take a handful of supplements, many of which I learned about here.
I wish I could tell people to try going off all prescription meds, exercising, and eating the healthiest food you can afford, but I know that's not possible for everyone because of genetics. I have multiple markers for prostate cancer which of course doesn't effect me, but my brother had a real scare--it was at least stage 3 by the time it was discovered and was the most malignant type. Fortunately it responded well to hormone therapy and he's doing well. My father had high blood-pressure all his life: his father was one of 5 brothers, all of whom died between the ages of 49 and 51. So I do realize the need for doctors and prescription medication, which kept my father alive until skin cancer got him at the age of 81. Just keep looking until you find a doctor who will tell you what's going on and answer your questions. Be skeptical of certainty: they're guessing.
P.S. I had two dogs when I moved to Florida and I loved my vet down there. He was an experienced and compassionate doctor and constantly admitted that he was guessing.